Wacky Wednesday...handled.

 

Hi.

Just this morning I noticed water damage in the second floor

ceiling coming from the 3rd floor.

Also, my internet is less than spotty lately so I tried to 

fix that today but I was instructed to go online for help.

Well.... that did not go well.

Just last evening my dishwasher stopped working because there was 

a plastic goggly eye stuck in the drain hose.

The boiler and heater still aren't well after that power surge

from Eversource so we have the mechanical guys coming out

Friday.

*sigh*

In my lifetime I noticed that things like this come in herds.

A herd of misfortune.

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Old me would be so stressed out...

Especially since the road crew is f'ing up the road next to our fence right now.

Also, 2 dozen ducks have been walking from the river to our house

for whatever reason several times a day and I have to

 shoo them back across the road because the golfers come in hot

on the turn here and I do not want to see them run over.

Yep, old me would be so freaked out.

I am still *spring cleaning*- or trying to.

This morning I took apart my glass coffee table 

and gave it a good clean, been meaning to since I moved here.

I am also tailoring pants for the Mr. for a wedding we are attending this

weekend, caring for all the babies...chicken & dogs.

And just now a logging truck almost hit the fence as I write this.

( way too big for this street)

So how do I manage all this simply silly stress now?

I have taken a few months to reevaluate how I respond.

Health is so much more than what you eat and how much sleep you get.

It is also what you allow into your mind.

I was wired to be a bit high strung... it is in my genes, yet I also

despise stress. Knowing that I was able to set new boundaries

for my every day so that when we get times of 

strife or illness or unexpected junk happening, I do not react.

I have the capacity to step back and calmly address it...or not.

Not addressing it is also an option, but you may eventually have to.

I have lived though times where something so big happens that

all of these small annoyances no longer matter.

That changes you and how you place value on stress.

The lesson here for me is always pausing and evaluating.

*Is this an emergency?*

* Can it wait? *

* What is the best way to go about it?*

* Do I need help?*

What also helps is routine.

With a flexible routine things do not get so out of hand.

This one is pretty sparse but it illustrates how a basic routine

can look. For me...simply saying dust on Monday means a whole lot.

The house is carved into 14 different spaces that need attention.

My list is simple but specifies the rooms that need attention first,

like the bathrooms or kitchen over others that I rarely go into.

Routine helps me a bunch.

I often wonder where people get the time to get so angsty

when real life throws so many curve balls at us?

I am over here with the ducks, spotty internet and random

property trespassers... trying to get basic living accomplished.

I guess it is all about perspective.

I have a few friends going through it right about now as well.

My prayer time is never shortened no matter what.

It has been full recently with so many requests.

My goodness.

I am humbled to do it, so grateful that people ask.

Because prayer helps.

No matter how complicate your days get or how high that 

mountain is before you, know that there are people who

think of you, of your loved ones who struggle or who are

deep in the weeds.

I honestly do not know how we would have gotten through so much

without the thoughts & prayers of our friends.

For those struggling... I am here for you.

May you find peace of mind and spirit.

The reason I can lift others who need it is because I  took the time to

start healing myself.

Being an empath or a people pleaser is not healthy.

It just isn't.

It was formed as a coping mechanism long ago.

That weight .... is just too much to carry.

The weight of others'

constant needs above my own.

To be honest, most people I carried needed to learn how to

make better decisions on their own. 

They were askholes.

People who came to me over & over for advice 

to only repeatedly do them again & again and lament about it

and do it again & again, you get the idea.

If I had a nickel for every * Yes, but*.....

Now that I have new structure, and have taken my own advice,

I know what is mine to carry and what I no longer take on from others.

Love this informative chart.

Habits of happy people...maybe, but definitely habits of healed, mentally

well folks.

We can only truly carry what we can comfortably  control.

99% of what we worry about or whine about or bitch about 

was never ours in the first place.

Step back.

Evaluate.

Are you feeling responsible for things out of your control because

you are being maniputlated to think that it is your responsibility when

in fact it is not, nor was it ever?

Are you soaking in the negative narratives fed to you?

To sum it all up.....

Remember to give yourselves Grace.

You all, I am betting have parsed out Grace to others.

Why not give it to yourselves?

The benefits for me of doing that was a peace of mind that I had

no idea existed. 

I can handle most things without sacrificing my health

and my whole life is richer.

Not everything is ours to carry nor is it always a 5 alarm fire.

I hope that this advice helps even one of you.

It is a wacky Wednesday here... I am so grateful that I have learned to

laugh through it all.

Blessings,

Raven

xoxo